Sister needs to find an ally and support system before calling out older sibling’s bad behavior for the sake of next generation.
Dear Carolyn
Hi, Carolyn:
I have an older sister who was incredibly abusive toward me as a child. She was controlling, manipulative, the works.
She and her husband (who she’s pretty mean to already) are trying for a baby. When I heard the news, I got so upset I nearly threw up. I’m so afraid that child will grow up the way I did, and even more afraid it won’t be as lucky as I was in having the ability to get away and live a decent life.