Dear Ann Cannon • I have a question about a family situation. I don’t want to give too many details, but I have a family member named Pat who is married to Chris. Pat is generally happy and eager to participate in family events, Chris is not. It has become normal to expect Chris to not show up to dinners, trips, outings, etc., with the family, even if it would benefit Pat and Chris’ kids to have Chris there. Sad for the kids.
Anyway, because Pat likes to be with the family, Pat will invite the family to their house for various activities and events.