Ideally, as we grow older, we also grow as people. “When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I thought like a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became an adult, I put away childish things.” Across distance, we learn compassion: we forgive schoolyard bullies, knowing their behavior grew from someplace dark inside them. We learn to see things not in terms of good/evil or smart/stupid, but in terms of motivations, of tough choices, of tough love. We learn to modulate our behaviors: to not throw temper tantrums when we don’t get our way; we learn that ice cream for dinner is fine once in a while but too often leads to a headache and a grumbling stomach the next day; we learn balance.