As a bartender for the last five or so years, I’ve had a lot of relationship talks. Generally speaking, if you are one of these people who seeks out bars for shoulders to cry on, it’s a fair bet that both you and your beloved are people who shouldn’t be together. There’s something toxic in a bad relationship, a kind of smell that spoils the soil around you, and you end up only having people paid to be in front of you available for an audience. Again, gross generalization - not all people in bars are bad. And not every good person has people to talk to.