In modern professional football in this country, an unpalatable but nevertheless unquestionable truth has emerged. It is OK to aim abuse at a referee or match official using certain swear words but not others.
So it is pretty much OK to tell a referee in the Premier League to ‘f*** off’. If a player does that, he will generally be OK. If he uses stronger words — say for example one that begins with a ‘c’ — then he may not be OK.
Where exactly the line in the sand is drawn is not scientific.